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The Turn On Trigger Quiz

How do you get your partner in the mood? And how do you get yourself in the mood?

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Co-create the intimacy you crave

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Your desires are unique to you. Discover what excites and empowers you in your sexual journey.

Many assume that physical touch is the key to intimacy, but this can sometimes lead to what sex therapist Vanessa Marin calls the Bristle Reaction—when someone recoils from feeling ambushed.

To avoid this, it's important to understand what your partner needs to get into the right headspace.

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Discover your desires

Understand what your partner needs BEFORE intimacy begins

Tell your partner what helps you get in the mood

Learn what other turn on triggers may also work for you

I love the ideas!

I just took the quiz and I think the result of mine is pretty accurate. I love the ideas included in the “popular requests” section and I really love the “potential script” to help guide people on how to approach these conversations.

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Nury Chavez

Los Angeles, CA

Spot on!

I took the quiz, and the results were spot on! I also loved the accompanying photos—they were a perfect touch!

LeoLin

Austin, TX

Right on the money

You have no idea how much you've helped me understand and approach sexual liberation and communication!

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Wame

Great Quiz!

I was surprised by my results but it honestly aligns with my inner thoughts.

Stacie

Dallas

It was on point!

I felt like my results were very accurate. Thanks for this quiz!

Mia

Chicago

Very helpful!

I loved all the fun and actually helpful links. And loved the points you provided after the results.

Hannah

San Diego

Thank you so much for this quiz.

As a trans masculine non-binary human who sometimes leans towards asexuality I really enjoyed the quiz. It helped me to confirm that I really need to release the sexpectations from my own life.

Emmanuel

United States

I texted my partner the link to the quiz so I can hear more about his needs.

My results were pretty accurate! I'm in an open relationship, so this quiz really opened my eyes to my needs while also asking really thought-provoking questions, but that comes at no surprise-Shan asks the best questions. I can't wait to talk about his results with him!

Clara

United States

Loved it!

Overall the quiz was short, sweet, and to the point. Loved that. My results were very accurate and I loved the popular requests and potential script.

Ashley B.

United States

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