About Shan

So glad you found me!

What's up lover, I’m Shan! I’m a certified sex educator (AASECT), a sexologist (American Board of Sexology), and I’ve got a Master’s in psychology. I'm best known as the teacher on Netflix’s Too Hot to Handle, as the host of the podcast Lovers by Shan (formerly Lovers and Friends), or for my class on MasterClass called The Art of Sex Appeal.
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In the realm of modern intimacy and relationship education, I am more than just a well-known voice; I am a pioneer, constantly pushing boundaries and inspiring millions to explore, understand, and celebrate the power of intimate connections. This is why I am excited to introduce the premium experience that Lovers by Shan has to offer

1990: how MY PASSION SPARKED

My Barbies Were Nudists

I often get asked how I found my passion in my late teens, and the truth is, that's simply when I rediscovered it. For as long as I can remember, I was enamored by the body and romantic love. As a child, this interest was heavily discouraged by the adults in my life (which I now understand), but being left in the dark "for my protection" ultimately led to a pretty shitty intimate life once puberty and autonomy kicked in. At 19, after multiple bad experiences, I found myself at a fork in the road: either the adults in my life were right, and sex and romance were inherently bad, or my instincts were right, but my information was bad. Can you guess which way I turned?

I still look up to this lil girl

2005: WHEN I KNEW THIS COULD BE A JOB

Sex Ed Should be Sexy

After realizing there had to be better information out there than what my Caribbean and Catholic school upbringing offered, I got myself a library card at 19 and dove into every textbook on sex I could find—Kinsey, Our Bodies Ourselves, The Joy of Sex, and more. My big discovery? There was SO MUCH life-changing and fascinating information that I would have had no other way of learning. BUT... the delivery wasn't ideal for people like me. That's when I realized someone had to give these textbooks some color... someone needed to make sex ed sexy! Wanna fun fact? To make money while I started this new career, I became an extra in movies and TV. To this day, I get DMs from people asking if that was me in the intro of Mean Girls.

Yup, that's me

2010 ISH: THE BEGINNING OF MY CAREER

Go get LAID

I dove headfirst into a radical idea: creating a space where young people could learn from each other's experiences. Four years later, in 2009, my first book, "LAID: Young People's Experiences with Sex in an Easy-Access Culture," was published, and I had the joy of telling everyone to get LAID :). While the book made a significant impact for some, the early days of my career were filled with discrimination, belittling, and discouragement. The pushback was so intense that I gave up on my dream and decided to start a "real" life. So from 2010- 2014, I worked as a wedding photographer and lived in a tiny Toronto apartment with someone I loved, but truly did not like. It was a dark period that thankfully ended with a God-sent email: Sex expert needed for a BET show shooting in LA.

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I broke my lease & broke out!

2015 ish: when shame was no longer an obstacle

LA is FAKE ... and that's why I needed it

Good news—I got the BET job! Bad news, the show was canceled before it even aired. Yikes. But it was still a blessing because I had already moved to LA, and I wasn't ready to return to my "real" life without a fight. So I decided to embrace the city's make-believe nature. Yes, the stereotype is true: in LA, nothing is real—even the palm trees are imported! This made it the perfect place for me to reinvent myself and my work. I eventually found a community of visionaries who delighted in the taboo, went back to school during the day, hustled as a photobooth operator by night, and most importantly, I found the courage to start my sex ed YouTube channel. This channel eventually caught the attention of MTV and a guy named Jared Brady.

So Shan Boody was born

2017: the golden years

Began my life with Jared, gained traction, had kids...

I hate to yada yada over the best years of my life, but this is truly where the bio you likely know me from began. I hosted shows, published another book, started a hit podcast, and most importantly, began a family with the love of my life, who has also been my business partner since 2017. This is also where my story comes full circle, as I began to truly reap the benefits of a lifetime of believing in the power of love! And now, all I want to do is deeply connect with and teach others who feel the same way. So all of this is essentially the long answer as to why I built this site and the LOVERS community.

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Hosted a few shows...

Lead expert for a Netflix series!

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yes, she about her business

Arya is a service I fell in love with last year because it helps couples get and STAY creative in the bedroom (which of course carries over beyond). It’s more than a box service, it's education, entertainment, expert guidance, inspiration, and community. I am the CIO and I would be delighted if you joined us on our journey by starting your own with your lover!

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While I am not a part owner at Bumble (maybe oneday ha!) I am a proud team member who has been working as their sex and relationship expert since the pandemic. I do media interviews on their behalf, host events, and make content.

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After I had my first baby I started working with ByHeart and it was clear it was a match made in infant formula heaven. I'm a proud champion of the product so I make content about it and attend events to talk about their revolutionary formula.

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Like many people, my love affair with Dame began after Eva (the hands-free clitorial vibrator) was released and it continued to grow into a beautiful partnership. Today I am apart of their pleasureship, I help develop products, and I get to make cool educational content with them.

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My husband is a cannabis aficionado and one of the stars of the Hulu show "High Hopes." He transitioned from being a budtender at MMD Hollywood to a major investor at MMD New Jersey... and I'm along for the ride because you know..marriage!

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My husband and I got so good at making content that we decided to open up a joint production company (Shan + Jared = Shared). We have been hired to make content for Meta, Rayban, Skyn Condoms, all of the companies we are apart of and more.

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Her advice is sound: learn what you want and create the circumstances to get it

Time Magazine

Forget what you think you about dating — sexologist Shan Boodram is here to take you back to school...Boodram dares to be blunt, but is never unkind

Apple Podcasts

Certified sexologist, dating coach and YouTube’s go-girl for all things sex positive

Essence Magazine

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